101 Secrets For Your Twenties

Have you heard? The secret is out! Or in this case the secrets… Paul Angone’s 101 Secrets For Your Twenties is out! If you haven’t read the viral 21 Secrets For Your 20s check it out for just a tiny glimpse through the key whole to what’s behind the door for 101 Secrets For Your Twenties101-Secrets

The best thing about these secrets is that they aren’t really secrets, they’re facts. Every single one of these “secrets” are so incredibly true! You just can’t realize it or figure it out yourself because you’re stuck in the middle of it. Paul Angone is the voice of reason who can give you that bird’s eye view into your life. He can be that voice of reason giving you the outsider’s view on the life of a twentysomething. After going through it himself why wouldn’t he be a twentysomething guru?

Each secret is told in a witty and honest way that you could finish the book in one sitting. Or don’t, instead read one inspirational secret a day for motivation. Do whatever fits your lifestyle. You can’t go wrong with these 101 secrets. Here are some of my favorite secrets:

#1 Sometimes surviving your 20s is nothing more glamorous than just holding on for dear life on the back of an inner tube like a kid being whipped around by a speedboat.

#6 Life will never feel like its’s suppose to.

#22 The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize its because of all the manure.

#52 Your ability to learn Wine 101 might be the difference between eating at the Adults’ Table or stuck in a folding chair with the kids.

#60 Our 20s are not about finding our home; our 20s are about finding the right place to build it.

#79 Knowing your Karaoke-Compatibility should be a required premarital exercise.

#99 Success in your 20s is more about setting the table than enjoying the feast.

And of course secret #101, but I’ll let you discover that your yourself.

If you don’t get a copy of this book you will certainly be missing out. Missing out on memorable stories, hilarious analogies (English class people) and seriously good advice. I know a lot of people who are already raving about this book. Check it out on Amazon, Barnes & Nobles or download it!

Have you read “101 Secrets for Your Twenties” yet?

If you have share your favorite secret below!

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Paul-Angone-Author-of-101-Secrets-for-your-TwentiesPaul Angone is an author, speaker, storyteller, humorist, and the creator of AllGroanUp.com – a place for those asking “What now?” His article “21 Secrets for your 20s,” on which this book is based, has been read by nearly a million people in 190 countries. Paul studied at Westmont College and then received his Master’s degree at Azusa Pacific University. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and their two beautiful girls.

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No Headphones Challenge

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This weekend I went to a meditation where there was a talk on temperance. The main question that I drew from this talk was;

Where can I tighten the screws and where can I be more free in my life? 

This got me thinking… There are so many screws that I try to focus on for self improvement. I think we all tend to look at what can we do more instead of less. This questions reminds us we should also practice getting rid of extras to give our lives room. So let’s think…  What can we do less of?

I spoke yesterday on creating good habits to become the person you want to be. One characteristic I’d like to always embody is to be a people person. Someone who makes people happy and wants to help people.

The use of headphones came up during the talk on temperance. How many times have you immediately put in your headphones while leaving on the elevator from work? Or when you got on the subway? I know that is one habit I do have.

Think about how isolated from the world you are when you have your headphones on. How many people do you not notice?

This week I decided to loose the headphones. I’m going to see what my life is like when I free myself from the isolation. I’m going to start talking to people in the elevator. I’m going to acknowledge people who I sit next to on the subway. Heck, I might even smile and say hello to people on the streets!

They may seem like insignificant little gestures but that’s where you start; you start small. One day if I have to make a 30 second elevator pitch, I’ll be prepared to just start a conversation with a potential employer. Same thing for being on the subway or anywhere with anyone!

I free myself to being open to communications with others. Freeing myself to be open to the unexpected. The unthinkable may never happen if I stay in my little isolated headphones bubble, so I’m freeing myself to see what happens.

It’s only a week! Why not?

 

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How To Shop and Save on Groceries

Ever since I moved to NY I’ve had problems with grocery shopping. This is my first apartment and consequently there are a lot of “adult things” I’ve been figuring out on the way, mainly budgets. Besides the lovely monthly bills and travel (Yay, $112 monthly unlimited subway rides!), groceries is where I spend my most money. I know this because I keep track of my money, you can see how on my post on how I use Mint.com.

Grocery shopping has caused me to struggle with more than just the budget. I am the oldest of four and lived with both my parents, and we’re all pretty athletic so that means I grew up in a house hold of 6 mouths with big appetites. I’m used to buying in bulk and cooking in bulk. I always liked cooking big meals. I love left overs. It makes your week easier and you can eat your favorite meal over and over again! How great is that?

Unfortunately this table for one now has two big problems with buying food:

  1. I can’t use the food fast enough so too much goes bad too quickly.
  2. I can’t carry all the food I would normally buy on my 10 minute walk home from the store, I’m simple not super woman.

Those are my sad grocery shopping problems which I’m calling; Budget, Bulk and Bad. If I’m having these problems, I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who are encountering the same problems. Here are three tips for each Budget, Bulk and Bad grocery problem that I’ve learned along they way.

Budget

Be Realistic 

When I first started creating my own budget I thought I should be conservative everywhere. I soon realized I was not going to be able to stay within this budget and it was okay to make adjustments. Food is something we need. It is a necessity, not an extra. I found that it was better to be honest about how much I spent monthly, rather than to force myself stay below an arbitrary number.

Create a Working System

I started off by keeping all my receipts. I made a system to see how much I spent each much. This became a lot easier once I started using Mint.com, because it automatically did that for me. Now I can quickly see how much money I am spending and how much I have left to spend for the rest of the month.

Like I said above, I had to go back to make adjustments. When I saw that I needed to account for more money on groceries I took money from other budget areas. For example, I took money from budgets for going out and clothes shopping then put that amount in my grocery budget.

Be Smart With Your Money

Just because you’re being realistic and you have a system doesn’t mean you should just throw all your money away without even thinking! Pay attention to labels and look for the deals. Be that guy who uses coupons from the Sunday newspaper, because lets face it, the people on Extreme Couponing are pretty amazing. There are numerous websites and apps to help you find, download and organize all your coupon needs. Take advantage of it.

When looking at sale tags you will want to pay extra attention to the unit price. Sometimes it will pay to buy more, but be reasonable on your size choice and be aware of shelf life. I also often find traps set for the eager deal shopper. For example, I’ve seen a sale at 2 for $5 for a brand name item, but the store brand is $1.20/item. If you didn’t catch that math it means the brand name item is $1.50/item so the store brand is cheaper at $1.20. Basically sale items can be a tricky trap, so be smart!

Bulk

Don’t But In Bulk

Just don’t do it. There’s only one of you… or maybe two if you split the groceries with your roommate. You don’t need to buy the biggest pack, you can go a size or two down. Obviously nonperishable items can be a bit of an exception, but buyer be ware, buy too much and you could be spending more than you need to. For veggies I tend to buy frozen vegetables now because something always changes and I can’t use the fresh ones in time. For fruits and meats I just started by buying half the amount I did before. It’s kind of something you need to feel out on your own.

Make a Grocery List

A great way to avoid buying too much is to make a grocery list. Simple, yet so helpful. The key to a grocery list and stick to it, don’t buy anything that is not on your list. I have a printed grocery list where I can check off items I have run out of. (You can download it at the bottom of this post.) If you want to be super intense you could use your receipts to keep track of how much of what items you use and how often. But starting with a general grocery list will be a great start.

Always Have a Bag

If you have a car, I envy you, but this tip could still help you. Sometimes the numerous plastic bags it takes to carry all your food makes it more complicated, and quite uncomfortable. I’ve started keeping an extra bag that folds up in my purse. This is the bag I have, I got it from work. Having this fold up bag allows me to go grocery shopping whenever I want and I don’t have to go home first. I can just hop off the subway and stop at the grocery store on my walk home. Any eco-friendly bag simplifies your shopping experience, the baggers at the cashier don’t mind at all, and its better for the environment.

Bad

Buy Less More Often

We talked about not buying in bulk to help with your carrying load, but this will also save from food going bad. If you buy less more often, say weekly or biweekly, you will be more conscious about what you are buying. Stick to that grocery list mentioned above. Think about what you will need in that period of time and how much you can actually eat. Think about your schedule, can you really finish all that food or make a new meal every night before the food goes bad? Instead, try buying one item that can be used in multiple meals. Do you love tomatoes? I know I do! I buy a couple of tomatoes for the week and use them in breakfast sandwiches, salads for lunch and pastas for dinner.

Plan For Meals

Take your grocery list and shopping experience to the next level by planning your meals for the week(s). This will help you in so many areas.  You can coordinate meals that use similar items so you will spend less and waste less. You can be smart with your money by choosing to make meals based on what’s on sale that week. I’ve seen the most improvement in how much I’m spending and how much I’m wasting just by planning meals ahead of time.

Cook One Big Meal a Week

Like I said, I love cooking big meals. I think it’s great to cook one big meal on a Sunday night to have left overs to bring to work for the week. It’s also great when I have no time to cook when I get home after a late work night. This week I made an improvement on my routine. Normally I cook a big meal then leave it in one big container, so each day I would take out what I need for lunch or dinner. The problem here is when I’m home for dinner I tend to take seconds, so the meals wouldn’t last as long as I wanted. Now instead of using one large container I split up the portions into individual tupperware. This new system has been great, I’m eating a healthy portion and saving enough meals for the week.

Working with Budget, Bulk and Bad was easier than I thought. I really don’t have any problems with grocery shopping anymore. I’ve grown to like shopping one a week. In the last month my lowest grocery bill was $16 and the highest $35. Here’s an example of my staple weekly grocery list items:

  • Eggs – $1.00
  • Bread – $1.00
  • Rice – 2/$5
  • Pasta – 3/$3
  • Chicken – $8.00

That’s only $18 right there. Keep in mind that I’m rounding here and I don’t buy all of these items every week. Especially rice and pasta, those have a long shelf life. I know it sounds bland, but that’s just my staples. Depending on what I’m planning for the week and what I already have I may only need a few more things to make a scrumptious meal. Like last night, I made Shepherd’s Pie for the first time! I bought groceries for it this past weekend, take a look at what the recipe called for and what I needed to buy…

  • 1.5 lbs of ground beef – bought it for $4
  • 1 onion chopped – already had 4 onions
  • 1-2 cups of vegetables – already had frozen corn
  • 3 big potatoes – bought them for $1 each
  • 1 stick of butter – already had a tub of butter
  • 1/2 cup of beef broth – already had a can left over from an old recipe and I saved the other half of the can in a jar for later
  • 1 teaspoon of Worcestershire sauce – already had it from a jambalaya recipe
  • Salt, pepper, other seasonings of choice – already had salt and pepper, and I used cinnamon to mix in the potatoes

From all that I only need to buy 2 things. I ended up getting 5 servings out of the meal. All that for under $10! Planning can really help.

What do you do to help with your grocery shopping? Do you have a favorite recipe to share?

Download my grocery list here: AsktheYoPro_GroceryList

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Should You Move In Together?

A lot of couples move in together because it makes their lives easier. Maybe they spend so much time together anyways or they have so many sleep overs that their stuff is split between two houses; its just easier to live in one place. Or maybe they are both moving to a new city or state so they decide to get a place together because that’s easier than finding new roommates. For whatever reason it seems like more couples are living together before marriage than before.

It can be a dangerous choice if not thought out properly.

Personally, I’m not for living together. Trust me, I would love it. I’m in a long distance relationship and so badly I would love for my boyfriend to move to New York when he’s done with school. It would be easier for him to move in with me since I already have an apartment and he doesn’t know many people out here, but for me that might be risking too much. Reading “The Cohabitation Effect” chapter from The Defining Decade helped me confirm I’m making the right choice.

“…couples who ‘live together first’ are actually less satisfied with their marriages and more likely to divorce than couples who do not. This is what sociologists call the cohabitation effect.” (p. 91)

Living Together is NOT a Test for Marriage

This is a common assumption for many people, young and old. This was true for Jennifer, one of Dr. Meg Jay’s clients. Jennifer was now seeing Dr. Meg Jay because she was getting a divorce after feeling she got into the wrong marriage too quickly. Jennifer and her husband Carter dated and lived together during their twenties. As Jennifer was nearing thirty she saw her other friends marrying and having babies of their own, Jennifer started to worry that Carter would never be serious about a career or their relationship. Jennifer thought living together would be a good test for marriage. With Jennifer and Carter as an example Dr. Meg Jay explains how living together is not a test for marriage…

“They vaguely had the idea of testing their relationship, but they didn’t venture into areas that typically stress marriage: They didn’t pay a mortgage, try to get pregnant, get up in the night with kids, spend holidays with in-laws when they didn’t want to, save for college and retirement, or see each other’s paycheck and credit-card bills.” (p. 93-94)

In the same way, marriage is not  a test to see if the other person will get serious about the relationship. 

At the very least if you are going to move in with someone you need to have a talk about what that commitment means for your relationship. Too many times couples who have been living together for numerous years feel that the next step is getting married, but too often these marriages quickly fail.

Sliding, Not Deciding

Often couples move in together after a quick decision without a conversation as to what the move will mean for the relationship. This is “what is known as ‘sliding, not deciding.’ Moving from dating to sleeping over to sleeping over a lot to cohabitation…” (p. 92)

Without a conversation couples can have different motivations for moving in together and different opinions on what it means for the severity of the relationship. Research has shown that twentysomething men are motivated to make the move for chances of more sex while women are motivated for chances of increasing love. “But both men and women agree that their standards for a live-in partner are lower than for a spouse.” (p 93)

Isn’t that sad? Why are we lowering our standards? If we’re looking for love and want to be on a path towards marriage shouldn’t we be at least keeping to the same standard?

Couples still slide into moving in together, probably because they are unaware of all these know facts from researches. It seems harmless because so many people are living together. It’s the new norm to live together before marriage or even being engaged. But, unfortunately as couples slide into living together, the time starts sliding as well.

Jennifer recalls how after a couple of years she wondered what her and Carter were still doing…

“Everything about it was fuzzy. That fuzziness ended up being the mot frustrating part. I felt like I was on this multiyear, never-ending audition to be his wife. That made me really insecure. There was a lot of game-playing and arguing. I never felt like he was really committed to me.” (p. 94)

Time slides by and it suddenly feels like you should be married by now. The daunting thirty deadline gets closer. Friends start walking down the aisle. Then more friends are walking down and then baby carriages start appearing. Everyone else is settling down, making you feel behind.

Lock-In

The “lock-in” comes when there is a pressure to get married due to the number of years the couple has lived together and/or age. The problem is because the couples’ lives have become so intertwined it is harder to leave the relationship than he/she thought when first moving in together. When a couple moves in together they underestimate the risk of combining their lives financially because the consequences are in the future; the future possible problems don’t seem as real or complicated until the very real complications hit them in the face.

“Lock-in is the decreased likelihood to search for other options, or change to another option, once an investment in something has been made.” (p. 96)

The investments are called “setup costs”. The setup costs can be as small as a signature or as big as adopting a pet or splitting costs for all of the furniture. Setup costs, big or small, can lead to a lock-in. Setup costs create an attachment that makes it more difficult to leave later, even if leaving will provide a better option.

This can happen because of the “‘switching costs’… the time, money, or effort it requires to make a chance.” Switching costs are what couples underestimate and are what make it the most difficult to leave.  Lets say a couple adopts a dog. When one of them has thoughts about leaving the relationship one starts to wonder, who gets the dog? Or if you have a joint bank account or credit card, how will you get out of that smoothly to support yourself? Couples stay in their live-in relationships because of the uncertainty of how to leave and the fear of what will happen to the things, pets and even friends that “belong” to both couples.

Before long someone is forcing the other down the aisle. The couple is quickly married then most likely divorcing, and leaving is becoming even more complicated than before.

Yes, I will agree that this is not the case for all couples. For example, the cohabitation effect is less likely for couples who move in together after a public engagement. I thin the key here is if you are considering living together, first be sure to have a converstaion. Find out why you want to live together and what it will mean for the relationship. Talk about what you would do if you ran into any of the problems we talked about here or how you could avoid them. Second, be sure to re-evaluate. Having the initial converstation is a good start, but you need to make sure you continue to “check in”. Think on your own to make sure you are happy and have what you want. But also make sure you are always being honest with each other. Revisiting the conversation can be a good thing.

For me, I will continue to stick with my decision to not live together before I am married. I think it is too easy to fall into a lock-in. I also worry that it could ruin a relationship, even if the relationship does not work out romantically, I would hope that we would be able to to stay in each other’s lives. Leaving a live-in relationship seems too messy and might ruin that chance of being friends, instead there could be too much animosity.

What do you think about the cohabitation effect?

 

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Dr. Meg Jay from The Defining Decade – 30 Is Not The New 20

Check out my girl, Dr. Meg Jay! She’s on TED talking about her lessons for twentysomethings.

I did a post series on her book, The Defining Decade, where we learned about the importance of using our twenties to build of future in work, family and personal life. Listen to this talk, read some of my posts, and take the time to read The Defining Decade. If you learn and act, you will be better prepared than most of your peers.

“Thirty is not the new twenty, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You’re deciding your life right now.” ~Dr. Meg Jay

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How To Live Your 20s

There’s been so much talk about how to live your twenties. What I got from all the talk was that there were only two ways to live. You either worked really hard or you partied really hard. After this week of events I realized my perception has been completely misconstrued.

The twenties shouldn’t be lived one way or the other; it should be the years where we are taking advantage of what we can do now that we can’t do later.

That’s what the YOLO mentality is really about. There’s only a short period of time where you can do certain things before you become too old to do it or worse, too busy. There will come a day where your life schedule doesn’t allow you to be spontaneous because of all your responsibilities. I really hope it doesn’t come to that and I will try incredibly hard to not let it, but the time we’re given now should not be taken for granted.

The best thing the twenties can offer is flexibility. We can do everything with little to no baggage. We can move across country. We can go on a self-exploration. We can stay up all night and then go to work the next day, if we wanted you can always make up for sleep later. We can completely change our life and have little to no effect on the people surrounding us.

That’s the freedom the twenties gives so I think it’s only fair that we take advantage of that. We should be using our twenties to live in the moment, whether it is for work or play. We shouldn’t be afraid to take risks now that we won’t be able to later.

Let’s live our twenties to the fullest by making time for career advances and also taking advantage of what life has to offer.

How to Get the Job

Resume? …Check!

Portfolio? …Check!

References? …Check!

Cover Letter? …Check!

Impressive Professional Outfit? …Check!

You have everything they told you was required… why haven’t you been hired?

Chances are you have all the content, but your writing might be why someone else is getting chosen over you.

Having the right qualifications, easy to read formatted resume and praised recommendations are all important necessities when applying, but the cover letter is what separates you.

Picture yourself as an employer. You have two twentysomething applications in front of you. Both are from Ivy League schools, have the same GPA and meet all the qualifications. You only have the budget for one new employee. Which one do you choose?

You choose the one who most resonates with you; the one who wedges his/her way into your memory; the one who told you a better story.

“A good story goes further in the twentysomething years than perhaps at any other time in life.” ~The Defining Decade, Dr. Meg Jay (p. 62)

The cover letter is your opportunity to capture your future employer’s attention. Instead of telling a chronological explanation of your highlighted experiences and accomplishments, create an engaging story. Grasp their attention. Make them want to read your cover letter because it is different from the tens to hundreds sitting in the same pile.

Go back to the basic writing skills you learned in English class about a story arc. Do you remember this chart?

story arc

Try to use the story arc to tell your professional story. Be selective and share specific moments that can form pictures.

“As a twentysomething, life is still more about potential than proof. Those who can tell a good story about who they are and what they want to leap over those who can’t.” ~The Defining Decade, Dr. Meg Jay (p. 62)

This was hard to hear the first time I read this. I was very proud of all my accomplishments in college. I thought my experiences set me up very well. To think my experience meant nothing kind of hurt… It took my pride away, but only for a moment.

I realized the point wasn’t that the experience gathered as a twentysomething was not important, but that it was more important to showcase traits that can be improved upon. 

When an employer is looking to hire a twentysomething most likely they are looking for someone to grow with the company. Someone who has the fundamentals to be a good employee. Someone who can listen to directions and improve over time. Someone who can be easily trained.

How can this be reflected in an a cover letter? It sounds like something that has to be demonstrated in person and perhaps over a period of time.

The answer is in the story. Your well written story will show that you have the two most basic, yet highly necessary skills needed of every employee; communication and reasoning.

Having good communication means you can receive direction, relay information, and express your own thoughts. Reasoning is important because it allows you to operate on your own and make key decisions. Having both these skills gives the employer something to start with, something with a success rate that can be molded into the long term employee they need.

In your story you can relay what type of person you are and what type of employee you can be. (I think both are important.) You can reason out how you can be a key aset to the company and how you want to grow.

“Stories that sound too simple seem inexperienced and lacking. But stories that sound too complicated imply a sort of internal disorganization that employers simply don’t want.” ~The Defining Decade, Dr. Meg Jay (p. 62-63)

This is why I would suggest outlining your thoughts first. Organize them in a manor that pertains to the position and to each other. Then you can get a better handle of capturing the best illustration of yourself and keep it all on one page.

Take your time on your cover letter. Personalize them for each position you apply for. Select specific illustrated stories that most apply to the position. Get feedback (I’d love to help review your cover letter through email at asktheyoungprofessional@gmail.com).

This might not be your one chance, but it is probably your best chance to grab the attention of an employer.

I know I need to go back and update my cover letter. I encourage you to join me because it turns out our English teachers were right, our writing skills will always be important.

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What Career Path Should I Take?

After walking off the stage with your tassel turned and a diploma in your hand the adrenaline is high and you’re ready to take on the world! The next day the sparkle starts to fade as you as yourself, “So now what?”

Ian was one of the twentysomethigns who met with Dr. Meg Jay to move pass this point. He didn’t know exactly what he wanted to do which left him feeling lost. He described this feeling as treading in the middle of the ocean with no land in sight.

Having too many choices can cause us to want to tread water rather than swim in one direction. Treading water can keep us in one place but at least we are staying afloat by meeting minimum requirements like paying monthly bills.

We are afraid of choosing one direction because it might sacrifice opportunities of an alternate direction. Instead of taking a risk we stay right where we are at our dead end, overqualified job with no capital, hoping… dreaming that a choice will be made for us or suddenly become clear. We wait for a raft to come drifting by offering protection, when in reality that is not going to happen.

“Not knowing what you want to do with your life – or not at least having some idea about what to do next – is a defense against that terror.”

In other words, not knowing what to do is not a reason to wait to take action; it is an excuse to not face the terror of taking charge of your life and making decisions.

“Twentysomethings who make choices are happier than those who tread water.”

We do have some idea of what we want or what we could do. Dr. Meg Jay suggests we start by looking at our past and thinking about our futures.

What were some of your interests growing up? Did you develop any skills? Maybe you enjoyed working with your hands or working with numbers.

In the future do you see yourself working behind a desk or out in the field? Can you see yourself working in the city? Maybe you’d like to see yourself working for a corporate company or for a nonprofit.

“You’ve spent more than two decades shaping who you are. You have expectations, interests, strengths, weaknesses, diplomas, hang-ups, priorities. You didn’t just this moment drop onto the planet or, as [Ian] put it, into the ocean. The past [twenty-something] years are relevant.”

Unfortunately our parents have been lying to us… the sky is not the limit. The truth is we have skills and passions we developed in the past. We have desires and dreams about our futures. All of this narrows down out options for potential career paths.

Asking yourself questions about your past and future, narrowing down your options leads us to what psychoanalyst Christopher Bollas calls the unknown thought.

“Unthought knowns are those things we know about ourselves but forget somehow. These are the dreams we have lost sight of or the truths we sense but don’t say out loud. We may be afraid of acknowledging the unthought known to other people because we are afraid of what they might think. Even more often, we fear what the unthought known will then mean for ourselves and our lives.”

Twentysomethings need to take the time to explore our unthought knowns. Be honest. Explore every avenue. It could be helpful to write down a list of your skills, experiences, interests from the past and your thoughts on the future. Seeing them written down in front of you will make them seem real. You can compare and research reasonable options for which path to take.

Remember, making a choice does not mean another choice is lost. It only means your next choices will be “better informed”.

*All quotes from this post and this post series come from The Defining Decade and should be accredited to Dr. Meg Jay.*

Tired of lying …

Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain
You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today
And then one day you find, ten years has got behind you
No one told you where to run, you missed the starting gun.”

~David Gilmour, Nick Mason, Roger Waters, and Richard Wright of Pink Floyd, “Time”

I started reading The Defining Decade a book about “why you twenties matter- and how to make the most of them now” by Meg Jay, PhD. I should probably mention that I DO NOT read. Its never been something that has been easy for me to get into so when I recommend a book it must be interesting. Plus, I actually bought it so that’s just another signal that shows how much I like it.

I love this book because it relates to every twentysomething out there. The writing style is very honest and personal, super easy to read. I take it with me to work to read on the subway. The introduction starts with this quote above. I think it perfectly sets the tone for what this book is about. Meg Jay is all about the twentysomethings. She truly believes (and has to research to show it) that the twentysomethings is the start of the rest of your life… which sounds really intimidating but she doesn’t make it like that. I would highly suggest that every twentysomething read this book. If I haven’t convinced you yet I will be writing reflection posts as I continue to read on. Follow through with me on Meg Jay’s advice and share your own thoughts.

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