Sneak Peek: YPAF from Cindy

Young Professional Advice from Friends is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting a career and conquering your twenties. This week V from Borderline Adults shared her poem about being a young professional in her twenties. On Monday, September 2nd we will hear from Cindy from the Twenty-Something ConditionHere is a sneak peek…

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When I was a kid, I think I was under the impression that there were only three possible career paths: Doctor, Lawyer, and Teacher. I chose Teacher. Since that moment, I’ve been one of those people with a plan. You know, the usual: graduate high school, go to college, get a degree in my subject area, and pursue a Master’s in Teaching. But one thing I’ve learned in my twenties so far is that even those annoying people who have their whole life planned out sometimes get thrown for a loop.

I was sticking to plan fairly well until I decided to uproot everything after college, get married (to a wonderful guy, I might add) and move with him to Saudi Arabia so he could take a job there. All of a sudden my graduate school applications were useless, and my plan seemed somewhat derailed. How would I become a teacher now, when I had no teaching credentials and no experience? I resigned myself to being patient and enjoying the adventures that would come with living abroad. My career could wait.

For the full article and great advice from Cindy, tune in Monday morning at 9am for the full post. 

Take Charge of Your Genius to Survive The Identity Crisis

Recently I watched the TED Talk “Your Elusive Creative Genius” by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love. Gilbert talks about a problem we, as a universal society, have accepted; the concept of the emotionally unsound artist. Too many creative minds are distraught with deep, negative and destroying thoughts. Gilbert points out that this acceptance and numbness to this reality is wrong. There doesn’t have to be an “emotional risk” for creative minds.

In her TED Talk speech, Gilbert talks about how creative minds can and should keep moving forward with their work after the passing of what might be their biggest and only success. I thought Millennials and young professionals could easily apply Gilbert’s teachings from the TED Talk to the threat of an identity crisis.v We may not all have the emotional risk of being a creative mind, but we all do have the emotional risk of succumbing to the pressures of being a twentysomething emerging into adulthood.

As a young professional there are many pressures in our lives – career, finances, self-improvement, and personal lives. We can be negative about our current job, apartment, bank account, or whatever our current situation might be. We worry about the future. Asking ourselves, “Will I ever be successful?” “Will I ever make something of myself?” These are similar dark thoughts to that o father creative mind Gilbert refers to.

After what Gilbert calls her “freakishly successful” book, Eat, Pray, Love, many people would come up to her and ask,

Aren’t you afraid you’re biggest success is behind you and you’ll never be as successful ever again?”

Gilbert admits this is a terrifying thought and a very possible one. Twentysomething young professionals have a similar thought wondering how they will find a job, advance in career, find a husband/wife, how they will be able to afford things like a house, etc. It is possible we may fail and not knowing is absolutely terrifying. That’s the reality.

To find a way to move forward in her career Gilbert knew she needed to create a “protective psychological construct” to create distance between work and anxiety. I believe twentysomething young professionals also need to create this construct between themselves and anxiety.

In Gilbert’s search for finding a way to create this construct she looked back at past societies to see if they had a better way to deal with the emotional risk of creative minds. This search lead her to Ancient Greece and Rome. At this time people didn’t believe creativity came from within a human, they believed it came from the “divine attendant spirits of creativity.” They believed it was an out of body source or creature that came “from a distant and unknowable source for distant and unknowable reasons.” The Greeks called this creature a “deity” and the Romans called them a genius.”

When a performer had a moment where the genius would provide a glimpse of divinity through the performer the crowd would shout, “Allah! Allah!” “Allah” meaning God. Later, through the lost of pronunciation and culture, “Allah” became “Ole”. “Ole” is still something we shout today a sporting games when an athlete does something amazing or to support our favorite team. People used to understand where this talent, ability or creativity came from. The origin of the source was just lost over time. The Renaissance is where the idea of creativity coming from an inner source of the individual person came to be a new concept. Gilbert believes that is where we, as a society, went wrong.

If creativity does come from a genius and not somewhere within the individual then an immense amount of pressure is relieved. We also can’t be corrupted by pride if we cannot take credit for the talent(s). The good, or the bad, performance would be attributed to the genius. Everyone would understand that concept and accept it. The emotional risk would be taken away from the creative minds because they would not drown from the anxiety.

If we young professional can accept that there is an uncontrollable big picture we will be free from our pressures and anxiety as well. I personally believe my talents were given to me by God for a reason. I do not know the big picture, I cannot control what happens in my life, but I can use my talents to the best of their ability. For me, utilizing my talents and performing them to the best of their ability is my acceptance to the big plan and a thank you for receiving the talents. I accept i have no control or notion of what’s to come but i work as hard as i can with what I have. Whether you believe there is a genius, a gift from God or some other unknowable source, I believe acceptance is the key for young professionals to avoid their emotional risk and taking charge of their identity crisis.

After explaining the idea of having a genius, Gilbert goes on to explain different ways creative minds have dealt with this genius. Poet Ruth Stone told Gilbert about when she was younger and worked in the fields how she would literally feel the ground tremble beneath her. Every time Stone felt this tremble she knew it meant she needed to get to a piece of paper and pen fast. When the tremble caught up to her it felt like a windy storm was streaming through her. If she got to the paper and pen in time the poem would flow out through the pen and onto the paper. If she didn’t catch Stone said she felt the storm pass through her as it went off in search of another poet. During the moments when she almost lost the storm she would reach out with one hand as if to grab the storm by the tail and slowly pull it back in as the other hand wrote the words. Stone said that in these instances the poem would come out flawlessly, but completely backwards from the last word to the first.

Gilbert had a chance to interview musician Tom Waits for a magazine pieces years ago. Waits shared a story with Gilbert about one of his encounters with an outer body source. Waits said he would hear an enticing beautiful melody that would be his inspiration, his storm. One time he was driving down the freeway in LA when he heard this enticing melody. Waits anxiety started to creep up inside him again, worrying that he had no way to capture this melody and it would haunt him forever. Instead of allowing himself to be engulfed by his anxiety Waits looked up to the sky and said,

Excuse me, can you not see that I’m driving? Do I look like I can write down a song right now? If you really want to exist come back at a more opportune moment when I can take care of you, otherwise go bother somebody else today.”

Stone’s and Waits’ interactions with these out of body sources of inspiration helped change their work process for the better. They were able to release themselves from the emotional risk, the anxiety. They didn’t have to feel regret about missing moments to capture a poem or a melody. Gilbert said she herself was saved by this practice of interacting with the source. While writing Eat, Pray, Love she said she encountered one of these dark moments of anxiety and instead of succumbing to it, she took Waits’ approach. She spoke out loud towards a corner of the room about how if this book wasn’t a success it wasn’t entirely her fault. She showed up for her part of the job and she expressed how it would be great if the source or genius would show up for its part.

Millennials and twentysomething young professionals can change their work process and thought process by using these methods. I think the first step is to accept. Accept the reality that we do not have control and we do not know what the future holds. Then we each need to find an individualized way to deal with this reality any time anxiety and negative thoughts emerge. You can go with the talking out loud approach, or something different – praying, meditating or talking to a counselor.

Creative mind or not, be grateful for when your inspiration and your moment comes. When things finally align and you understand the big picture a little better, be grateful. Before, during and after your genius allows a glimpse of divinity to shine through you, show up to do you work. Show up every day and give it your all.

“Don’t be afraid. Don’t be daunted. Just do your job. Continue to show up for your piece of it whatever that might be. If your job is to dance, do your dance. If the divine cockeyed genius assigned to your case decides to let some sort of wonderment be glimpsed for just one moment through your effort then ole. And if not, do your dance anyhow and ole to you nonetheless. I believe this and I feel like I must teach it. Ole to you to you nonetheless just to have the sheer human love and stubbornness to keep showing up.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

How will you take charge of your genius to control your identity crisis?

The High Cost of Being a Millennial

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This is a guest post from David Carlson, writer at Young Adult Money. If you are interested in writing a guest post please see the guest post policy.

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A majority of millennials – those who fall in the 18 to early 30s age range – will go through some major life events within a relatively short period of time. Not only are these life events usually incredibly expensive, but they also come at a time when salaries and pay are relatively low compared to later in life. Usually the first decade or so out of college is filled with “paying your dues” and trying to figure out what you want to do career-wise for the rest of your life.

Today I want to look at some of these major life events and how they impact the finances of those in their 20s and 30s.

College Education

Most young adults choose to go to college after high school. Problem is, the cost of attending college is rising at a meteoric rate. Not only is tuition higher than ever, the costs of housing, text books, food, transportation, entertainment, etc. all have to be factored into the equation. Most finance their college education through student loans. While there is plenty of debate about whether young adults are taking out too many student loans, the reality is that many graduate college with a sizable debt load.

Even if you are able to land a good job after graduation, student loan payments have to be factored into the budgets of many college grads for years after graduation. Let’s not forget the fact that many career tracks also require graduate school, advanced degrees, and expensive professional certifications.

Marriage

Most people see themselves getting married one day. While people are getting married later in life than they have in the past, many still get married before the age of thirty. Unless you have parents bankrolling your wedding, you likely will need to come up with $10,000+ in financing (not counting the engagement ring, fellas!). While your wedding day certainly will be one of the most memorable of your life, it’s important to factor in all the costs and consider different ideas for keeping costs down.

Kids

Most people have children when they are in their 20s and 30s. Not only do children cost a ton of money over the course of their lives, but they also require a lot of time. There are some bloggers out there who work full-time, blog on the side, and have children, I have to believe that my blog work would have to be scaled back if I had children. What would I do without my beloved side hustles? I also am amazed at people who are able to work full-time, pursue an advanced degree, and raise children all at the same time.

I know I’m not hitting on the specific costs involved with having children but I think it’s pretty undeniable that they are an additional expense that need to be factored into your budget.

Buying a House

Buying your first home, whether it’s a single family home, condo, or townhouse, will be one of the biggest purchases you will have made in your life. As you can imagine – or maybe even have experienced yourself – there are a lot of advantages to owning a home. You build equity instead of paying rent, usually get a lot more space than you would renting, and have a place to call your own.

The costs involved in purchasing a home can add up quick, and they don’t stop once you close on your house. Consider the following expenses:

  • Down Payment
  • Closing Costs
  • Unexpected Expenses
  • Decorating/Furnishing
  • Upkeep
  • Insurance
  • Renovations

The costs add up quick. Combine these expenses with all the other expenses that young adults face and you can see why so many have trouble keeping their personal finances straight.

The Good News

Despite the high costs of being a millennial, there is plenty of good news:

  • Time – While it may be hard to come up with money for a retirement fund with so many expenses, millennials have a long investment horizon where compound interest can work in their favor.
  • Income will Increase – In your 20s and 30s you are likely making the least you will make in your career; your income will increase over time. While this is not always true, it is for most people. This means if you can balance your budget today, it will only become easier over time.
  • Major Expenses are usually Worth It – Your wedding will be one of the most memorable days of your life. Your education will open up doors for you and likely increase your income.

If you are a college grad, gotten married, have kids, and/or bought a house, how did you plan and deal with the costs involved? How are you planning ahead for these costs?

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David Carlson writes at Young Adult Money where topics include saving money, making money, real estate, health care, careers and more. You can find him on Twitter @DavidCarlson1 and also follow Young Adult Money on Facebook and Twitter.

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How Fellow Millennial Bloggers Schedule Their Time

This morning I shared 5 Tips For Creating A Work Schedule. I asked some fellow bloggers how they schedule their work on twitter. Here’s a quick re-cap of the conversation.

1. A Calendar Cannot Be Overrated

Lindsay Shoemake from That Working Girl and Michelle Adams both share a common love for utilizing a calendar. Having a calendar on your phone, computer or going old school like Rebecca Fraser-Thill from Working Self with a paper planner can help keep track of important dates and split up your hours.

2. Using Lists and Emails

Erin Lowry from Broke Millennial comments on how she uses lists on post-it notes and marking unread emails as a way to stay organized. Lists can help you keep of tasks so nothing gets lost in the hustle and bustle of work. Marking emails as unread, or important for Gmail users, or flagging them for Microsoft Outlook users, can allow you to come back to emails when it is more convenient.

3. Combining Methods

Emmie Scott from World By Storm talks about using a combination of techniques. She too uses the calendar technique. For her lists and notes she uses Evernote to seamlessly keep track of notes, lists, brainstorms, etc. across all platforms wherever she is. She has synced Evernote on her computer, phone and kindle! It’s a great tool for organization, scheduling and prioritizing.

How do you schedule your work?

5 Tips For Creating A Work Schedule

Are you having trouble staying focused at work? Do you feel completely overwhelmed by the amount of projects you have? If all your work created an avalanche on top of you, do you wonder if anyone would be able to find you?

Try scheduling your time. Sure, you may have meetings and deadlines in your calendar, but what about the time in between? Scheduling your day can increase your productivity and reduce stress levels. Here are 5 tips to help you create the perfect schedule for you.

Prioritize

First things first, make a list of all your projects, any deadline dates, meetings to prepare for, daily office duties and any other personal tasks you need to complete. Now prioritize them. Number the most important item on your list as number one, then continue on from there. Be sure to take note of deadline dates while you’re prioritizing.

Be Realistic

Now that you have numbered your items in order of importance, think about how much time you need to do each item. Do some items have to be done in a day? Can you work on a project over a period of days? Lets look at some different examples:

Emails – This is a daily tasks that maybe could take 30-60 minutes. Depending on your work communication and flow of incoming mail you might want to spread out scheduled email time. Try a half hour in the morning and a half hour at the end of the day. Or an hour first thing when you come in, then 20 minutes at lunch and 20 minutes at the end of the day. Find something that works for you.

#1 Priority Deadline Project – This is the most important item on your list, but it can be completed over a period of days. Schedule yourself a block of time each day where you can create and keep momentum working on the project. You don’t want to schedule too little time because you don’t want to loose a good working groove. On the other hand, you don’t want to schedule too much time so you don’t have enough time to work on other projects. Try scheduling an hour per day to work on one specific area of the project. Or take two hours if you need it.

The key here is to be realistic about how much time you need and how much you can get done during that time.

Schedule Breaks

It is just as important to schedule breaks as it is to schedule your work. They can be a five minute music break, a fifteen minute walk, or an hour lunch. There are 3 types of breaks you should consider:

1. Screen Break

It is important to take the strain off your eyes. Look off into the distance while listening to music for five minutes or eat your lunch not looking at a computer screen.

2. Activity Break

Last week, Dominic Peters talked about avoiding RSI. Get up every couple of hours. Go on a walk during your lunch period or walk to someone on a different floor who you need to speak with.

3. Mind Break

Give your mind some stress relief. Read about something enjoyable or read about what’s going on in your industry. Giving your mind a break from the pressure of deadlines will do you good.

Bonus: Vacation

In The Daily Muse article , How to Avoid Burn Out When You’re Saving the World, you’ll see a suggestion to take time off every six weeks. Different industries and companies have different requirements for being in the office so this might not work for everyone. Find what works for you and schedule it. If you don’t schedule it, you may never take it.

“The Heroic Minute”

The heroic minute is a term used by St. Josemaria Escriva. The concept of the heroic minute is that when the time is up, you stop right then and there. Try it. It seems simple, but it is extremely hard to do (especially the heroic minute of starting after your alarm clock goes off), but your organized productivity will pay off.

Reflect

At the end of your day take 20 – 30 minutes to reflect on your day. Did you get done what you wanted to? If not, why? Did you give yourself too much or too little time? Adjust the time for that project tomorrow. Did you not stop working on one project so another project fell behind? Set an alarm to remind yourself to move on. Finish what you need to tidy up, then write down what you need to come back to tomorrow.

Remember, your days may not all look alike. You may have to make a different schedule per day. Be flexible. Adjust your daily schedule when needed. Or make a decision – Is keeping a consistent daily schedule more important or can you adjust to the requests of others’ work schedules? I would suggest being adjustable, but there’s a chance consultancy might work better for you.

Here’s an example of my daily schedule. My schedule is a little different because it depends a lot on when work comes in. I decided the best plan for me was to structure long periods of time for other work I can do for myself then adjust and take breaks after I get a feel for what my work load is going to be.

My Daily Post It Note Schedule

How do you schedule your time? Do you have any additional tips?

Young Professional Advice from Friends – V

This is a  Young Professional Advice from Friends post written by V from Borderline AdultsYPAF is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting off and being twenty. This week V has taken a new approach to YPAF by submitting a poem.
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You would think it would be a Haiku
The way it flows is fragmented.
Never sure if you will ever understand the ending
The way it constantly changes.
Everyone’s compass is pointed in a different direction
When at one time they were all pointed north together.
But isn’t it fun to watch the dial spin
As you dance around the coordinates?
Never will there be a time more entertaining than this
I intend on looking back at the memories with a sigh.
But for now, I will search for my purpose
While I dance around the coordinates
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V is a 20-something living in Kansas City. She’s a contributor to Borderline Adults where seven 20-somethings share their adventures and inner thoughts of young professionals just trying to figure it all out. For the past year, V has been preparing and anxiously waiting for her next journey as a Borderline Adult entering  graduate school.

Sneak Peek: YPAF from V at Borderline Adults

YPAF is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting off and being twenty. This week Emma from Experience Required talked about trying your best to be as prepared as possible for your career after college and to never give up on yourself. On Monday, August 26th we will hear from V from Borderline Adults. For the first time YPAF will be shared as a poem! Here is a sneak peek…

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You would think it would be a Haiku
The way it flows is fragmented.
Never sure if you will ever understand the ending
The way it constantly changes.
Everyone’s compass is pointed in a different direction
When at one time they were all pointed north together.
But isn’t it fun to watch the dial spin
As you dance around the coordinates?

For the full poem from V, tune in Monday morning at 9am for the full post. 

10 Reasons You Should Be Like a Child

Every adult or emerging adult should emulate being a child. As we grow up there is a tendency to become more stiff and rigid. I believe this comes from the responsibilities and knowledge we take on over the years. The responsibilities make us worried so we naturally make them the center of our lives, quickly shutting out what matter to us when we were a child. Knowledge brings confidence and independence, but it also comes with pride and can some times make us set in our ways.

A child is free from all those restraints. A child can dream, play and learn without any worries because he/she has someone to rely on, dreams to aspire to and the innocence to not be corrupted. Everything a child does is focused outward, where the life of an adult can become increasingly inward every day.

I would like to challenge every adult and emerging adult to take on these 10 characteristics of being a child. I believe if we take this challenge, every day our lives will improve spiritually and emotionally. We will start to appreciate what we have more and worry less about material needs.

Here are the 10 characteristics I challenge every adult and emerging adult to emulate.

1. Appreciative

Children are thankful for what they have. They can sit and be satisfied with the littlest thing… sometimes they are even satisfied with nothing!

How would your life improve if you were satisfied with what you had and appreciated every moment, possession and person around you?

2. Curious

Children have this natural yearning to learn. They want to discover new things, figure out why something works, and to explore the unknown!

How would your life change at work, at home and with other people if you had a naturally curiosity to push further to understand more?

3. Enthusiastic

Children are ready to participate and ready to share. They participate with their full self, totally engulfing themselves into the activity. They shout, “Mommy, Mommy! Look what I did!” to share what seems like the littlest moment to us, but is a proud moment for them.

How would you feel about yourself if you put yourself fully into the moment? If you were proud of everything you did?

4. Happy

Children are genuinely happy. Their happiness is pure and natural. There are no additives for a child’s happiness – no medication, no material consumption and no social acceptance needed.

How would your attitude change if you had a genuine, pure happiness?

5. Innocent

Children have no cruel intentions. They do not want to cause harm. They have a lightheartedness about them.

How would you act if you had a more innocent soul?

6. Loving

Children’s love is pure, innocent and true. They naturally love those around them. They love their parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, coaches, counselors, and all those around them with admiration and respect.

How would you treat others if you loved each one of them with admiration and respect?

7. Passionate

Children fight endlessly for something they want. Crying or not, they have a drive to follow through to the end.

How would you live if you were driven by this endless passion?

8. Transparent

Children show how they are feeling. They’re honest with their emotions and they’re not ashamed of it. They allow others in, instead of fighting off their compassion.

How would you be different if you were more transparent?

9. Trusting

Children have a first instinct to trust others. They’ll believe what you tell them and won’t question you. They trust that you have their best interest in mind.

How would you work with others if you were more trusting, and trustworthy?

10. Wide-Eyed

Children see the world and what’s in it with a wide-eyed amazement. They view the world in wonder of its endless opportunities.

How would you think with this wide-eyed view?

Bonus: Imaginative

Children are never tired of playing pretend. They dream up out of the box games and elaborate stories. They are never satisfied with boredom when they have their creativity at their finger tips.

Can you imagine your life improved with the characteristics of a child?

Young Professional Advice from Friends – Emma Warren

This is a  Young Professional Advice from Friends post written by Emma Warren at Experienced RequiredYPAF is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting off and being twenty.

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As a 20somthing, you are constantly in a state of change. This decade of life is a giant transition period. However, it doesn’t always flow nicely from college to career like we hope. It makes the educational and professional journey of your 20’s full of the unknown. That’s the scariest thing to me.
In college, it’s easy to daydream about what you are going to do when you graduate: Am I going to go to grad school right away, travel, or find an awesome job? The possibility of none of those things happening doesn’t become a reality until you are turning in your graduation application and everyone is asking what you’ve done to prepare for the “real world.” In my mind, going to college and getting some part-time work experience was preparing for the “real world.” There wasn’t much else that I could do at that point.
During my last semester of college, I realized that, although I had done a lot, I did not have the experience needed to get the type of job I wanted. So, I started applying for everything. To any job that I felt like I had a chance at getting, I submitted an application. After many trials and errors, I finally landed a job as an intern at a marketing company. This interview was the catalyst I needed to begin my career.
The internship was great because it created a smooth transition from student to professional. In the US, we go to school for about 18 years straight, graduate, and then are expected to function like a normal adult. There isn’t usually a buffer period. The internship was my buffer. I was able to gain experience, while attending seminars and learning from the professionals around me.
Being a 20 something is so much fun, but incredibly stressful! There are so many changes, good and bad. In the span of one month I graduated from college, got engaged, and was hired for an internship. During that time I also struggled with finding a position, didn’t get to move where I wanted (but I will!), and constantly questioned my professional worth.
The biggest lesson I learned through this whole “growing up” process is that you should never give up on your dreams. However, it helps to reevaluate them. Make sure your goal timeline is feasible, and that you look at all factors in getting there (finances (ugh), experience, location, relationships, health, etc.) because everything in your life effects everything else.

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EmmaAbout the Author:
My name is Emma Warren!
I graduated in May of 2012 with my BA from the University of North Texas, where I specialized in Anthropology, Marketing, and Italian. I have worked as a marketing intern, and now work as a full-time Internal Operations Coordinator at a third-party marketing firm.

About my blog, Experience Required:
In a world where professional experience is required in order to gain experience, many doors are closed to recent graduates. My blog is my recollection of various experiences since I entered the work force: experiences with family, love, responsibility, and the infamous work force.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ExperienceRequired

Sneak Peek: YPAF from Emma Warren

YPAF is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting off and being twenty. This week David Berezin from 20Somethings of 2013 shared his thoughts on the best and worse times of being in your twenties. On Monday, August 19th we will hear from Emma Warren from Experience RequiredHere is a sneak peek…

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As a 20somthing, you are constantly in a state of change. This decade of lie is a giant transition period. However, it doesn’t always flow nicely from college to career like we hope. It makes the educational and professional journey of your 20’s full of the unknown. That’s the scariest thing to me.
In college, it’s easy to daydream about what you are going to do when you graduate: Am I going to go to grad school right away, travel, or find an awesome job? The possibility of none of those things happening doesn’t become a reality until you are turning in your graduation application and everyone is asking what you’ve done to prepare for the “real world.” In my mind, going to college and getting some part-time work experience was preparing for the “real world.” There wasn’t much else that I could do at that point.

For the full article and great advice from Emma Warren, tune in Monday morning at 9am for the full post.