Young Professional Advice from Friends: On Being A Twenty-Something With Too Many Options

This is a  Young Professional Advice from Friends post written by Kayla Cruz from Gen Y Girl. YPAF is a collection of voices from different ages, places and industries to share advice on starting off and being twenty.
On Being A Twenty-Something With Too Many Options

Ohhhh being in your twenties…

You think it’s going to be awesome. You think it’s going to be this magical time in your life where you’ve got everything figured out and you get to stay up late and bar hop all night long. And then, when you wake up, you get to dress up really nice and go to that job that you love and be all adult-ish.

Regrettably, that’s not how it is. That’s not how it works.

My apologies.

Because being in your twenties and starting a career, it’s really hard.

And it’s not always fabulous.

And I think perhaps that hardest part is the fact that we have so many options.

Now, options can be great. They really can be.

But your whole life, you’ve never really had a lot of decisions to make.

Your parents chose what school you went to.

Your school determined what classes you took.

Everything was pretty much set up for you. You just had to live your life.

But when we graduate college and we’re starting a career, we don’t even know where to begin.

What city do I want to live in?
What job will make me happy?
What’s my purpose in life?
What are my short term goals?
What are my long term goals?
Do I want to take time off and travel?
Did I pick the right major?
Should I go to grad school?
Is corporate life for me or should I join a start-up?
These are all questions that we’re faced with…all at once.


Welcome to the real-world.

Price for admission: Your sanity.

On the bright side, we can form our own life to our own liking. But we have to actually set it up ourselves.

And that’s the hardest part.

So in order to prevent massive amounts of stress and/or some kind of giant huge freak-out that consists of packing our bags and moving to Thailand, take a deep breath, relax for five seconds, and think.

What do I need in my life right now?
What do I need to DO to get those things?
What makes me happy?

I think those questions are a good starting point. Take time to think and reflect, and calmly, start answering these questions.

Not for other people.

FORGET other people right now.

Answer these questions for YOURSELF.

And if you do that, you’ll be just fine.

You have options, and that’s a good thing, but don’t let them overwhelm you to the point where you do NOTHING.

GenY GirlKayla Cruz, founder of Gen Y Girl, is a young twentysomething just entering the workforce and hoping to share her experiences with other young professionals. She’s not bratty, just opinionated and writes at You can also follow her on Twitter @GenY_Girl.

6 thoughts on “Young Professional Advice from Friends: On Being A Twenty-Something With Too Many Options

  1. Nice article Kayla! I think one of the problems young people have with answering those questions for themselves is that they may not know themselves yet. Your twenties are a lot about getting to know the “adult” you. What that all means is that you will make mistakes in your twenties, so just learn to roll with the punches. 🙂

    • I’m glad you enjoyed Kayla’s YPAF post, Nick. I would also like to add to your comment saying we twentysomethings are learning about our “adult” self, as you put it, but also learning about the adult we want to be. Learning from our mistakes allows us to understand ourselves better and about what characteristics we want to develop. Both creating the adult we will be through out our lives.

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